• How you feel dropping your kid at university

How you feel dropping your kid at university

If your children are young, this will seem like a crazy thought. Hey, one day they’ll be off living on their own. But in what seems like the time it takes to drink a coffee and have a pee, the years are standing behind you waving, and your child is ready to leave home. I dropped my son off at university on Sunday and have been asking friends who’ve done the same what they felt or thought:

How it feels when they go

Photo by Not Jane Doewhat they felt. Here’s what we came up with:

  • You will either feel tearful, a bit gritty or angry or a combination of all of them
  • Even if you’re happy, you’ll still feel a bit strange (as we were leaving the university, one mother now alone in her car hissed at us about lane discipline)
  • “Very mixed feelings: pride, happiness, sadness and concern”
  • “When we got home I couldn’t resist phoning to check all was OK – but no answer. A few panicky thoughts about my lonely abandoned son. Then my realistic side persuaded me he would be fine”
  • Going through your head: Will my kid eat properly at all during the three years? “Mine went to the shop on campus while I grappled with his quilt in a room the size of an elf’s shoebox. He came back with a pot noodle and a box of jaffa cakes”
  • Also going through your head: “That bloody Beatles song about ‘She’s leaving home, bye bye'”
  • “There’s no resolution to my catastrophising. Before, I could worry about him walking the mean streets of South London, but then he’d get home OK. Now I can only imagine where he is and my head’s running riot”
  • If you analysed the cat’s fur you’d find tears
  • Proud and happy
  • Broke
  • Yah! We can have noisy nooky again!
  • If you thought leaving them at nursery was hard …

How did or would you feel? How do you think you’ll cope? Is it a walk in the park or a nightmare in the dark for you? For me, it just feels horribly quiet.






Optionally add an image (JPEG only)

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.